Relationships - A maze to unravel

Relationships.

The word that depicts 2 persons tends to be physically, mentally, and emotionally connected.

In the modern era, the word relationship has attained a more complex meaning.

Relationships come in various forms such as friendships, romantic love, compassion, and so on.

But the one I want to emphasize is that of romantic love.

Every time I join group conversations or talk with some random friends, I hear them say, the number of boys/girls they have scored, the toxic traits, and other such stuff.

Also, more often than not, if the girl rejected the boy or the other way around, the boy/girl would start bitching about him/her and spew hate that could otherwise be avoided.

I believe every other person has the power to make decisions: decisions that affect their life, their personality, and themselves.

But the other party often tends to misunderstand the opposite sex's decision. They take it upon their ego and degrade the other person.

It clearly depicts that the person in the picture has low self-esteem, lower self-confidence, and the lowest respect for anyone around him/her.

Everyone needs to learn the art of respecting the other person's opinions. It could be wrong from your perspective, or maybe right from their perspective.

We forget to see the picture from the other person's lens and how they would feel. And, if we were in the same position as them, in their own shoes.

Coming to romantic love, watching over 100's anime, drama series, movies, and a lot of other stuff, the word "Love" is special to me.

It signifies the bonding between 2 people, with your significant one who you can vibe with, you respect, you trust, and feel that they would be the one who wouldn't leave you in your difficulties.

Though this may sound like a fictional story, it just isn't.

The sacrifices you make, the little sweet things that you do to make her happier, her waving your hair while you sleep on her lap, the passionate kisses, and the academic success you achieve together are what constitutes true love.

True love isn't about sex or just showcasing your girlfriend to others as a prized possession. It is more to it than that.

As ages have passed, I find people to have lost the very essence of being in love. Hookups, affairs, getting laid, and scoring girls has kinda become the trend for the younger ages.

Small walks along the pathway holding hands together, surprising her with handwritten notes and stuff you have put the effort in - on her birthday, saying that you love her frequently and depicting the same through actions, putting efforts and time into a relationship is what makes love, truly valuable in life.

Over the course of my life, I did reject a few girls back in school, since I didn't feel a spark or a connection between us. And when I proposed to two of them, they rejected me, one in school and the other in university, since they didn't feel the same for me.

Maybe that's what life is. You appreciate their efforts and if you did feel a spark, an aura around them, never hesitate to take the relationship forward.

I still regret that I couldn't ask a girl out in school in person, maybe because I was afraid. Afraid, that I would be judged; Afraid that I would become the laughing stock of the class for the next day; Afraid that I wouldn't be able to commit time to my girl.

And a lot of other insecurities dawned upon me and crushed my utter self-confidence and self-esteem. Therefore, I kept on fantasizing about when she would ask me out, what do I mean to her, does she love me, and a wide range of questionable thoughts to which I had no answer.

And regrets leave a nastier scar than being rejected. Because, when I reflected on my school days after a few years, I arrived at the notion, that what-if she said "Yes.!", what if we would be happily enjoying our time with each other vibing together?

Alas, the what-if is the biggest regret I think of at times.

Hence, I suggest someone ask your crush out. She may say "Yes.!" and that would turn into the most beautiful of relationships, and you may also get your soulmate for life.

But on the other way round, even if she says "No.", rejection and dejection are far better than having regrets. Since they are easier to heal and fade away over time, unlike regrets which leave a nastier scar.

And popping in a fun psychological thought, "A person tends to like you within 90 seconds."

So, if you are still thinking about whether to ask your crush out, do it. It would lead to a beautiful path or in the worst case, a hump on the road. But there wouldn't be regrets scarred in your later life.

I am thankful for all the amazing friends that I cherish, the rejections that taught me to move forward, and the toxic friends who showed me that life is truly worth living for, and that it's often true love that heals long-lasting scars.

X O X O. ❤️